I read this on another blog ( http://www.singleyouth.blogspot.com) and i fell truly in love with the piece. Now i want to share it with you all. read on!
Too tall, too short, too dark, too light, too skinny, too fat। Too this, too that:
One of the greatest problems relationships have these days bothers on complex. Complex about how we are and how we are not; what we are and what we are not; what we have and what we have not. We hate people laughing around us because we feel they are laughing at the way we are; we are afraid to mingle or participate in certain kinds of activities, because we are too timid to be ourselves. A lot of us carry this behavior into our relationship(s), such that we are unnecessarily cautious and touchy with people we love:
He didn’t talk to me like that because of what I did wrong,
he just can’t stand my size (or my looks)…everybody hates
me. Am just not good enough…
If you feel this way, don’t bother about going into a relationship yet. Let us deal with that complex before it destroys both you and every other thing you love, cherish and encounter.
Most of the times we feel that people treat us the way they do, because of the way we are, or because of the things we are not, so we build a defense for ourselves, which culminates into aggression that most times are misplaced. Once the greatest appraisal of yourself is based on people's opinion of you, you will always take the backdoor even when you are not asked to; and even when there is no back door, you will create one, big enough to contain you.
Now you want to be like somebody else, because you feel/believe that it will make you more acceptable to people.
It is not about whom people think you are
It is not even about who you think you are
It is about what God can make you-Ogo’s nuggets
So how about paying more attention to what God thinks of you?
If God would let us take a small peep into the future, we will be shocked to discover how perfectly the way we are, fits into His plan for our lives. So anytime you try to do something to change the way you are just because you are ashamed of it, you are actually saying that God is not as wise as He says He is. You will always get into trouble when you try to be somebody else, and anyone that tries to reduplicate himself/herself or anyone else in you, does not attach value to who/what God has made you.
You have a complex problem when you
cannot celebrate yourself; when you feel
that everyone is better than you are. Soon,
if you don’t already, you will hate yourself,
then you will begin to blame God-Ogo’s nuggets
Instead of trying to change how God has created us, perhaps we should work and pray to change, by the constantly renewing of our minds, certain characters and traits that we have, which are unacceptable to God, and are potential destroyers of our relationships.
…and be not conformed to this world:
but be ye transformed by the renewing
of your mind, that ye may prove what is
that good, and acceptable, and perfect will
of God. Rom 12:2 (KJV)
Let us build ourselves to the level where we become trustworthy and reliable, then you will be in yourself a MIRACLE; and believe it or not, a miracle no matter the imperfections it may seem to have, is still a miracle, and someone will love you enough to sincerely thank God for his/her miracle, despite those things you see as flaws-Ogo’s nuggets
Anyone that cannot stand the way you are neither understands nor appreciates the wisdom of God in your life; and if you continue to hang out with them, they will eventually kill the very essence of God in you.
He that walketh with the wise men shall be wise:
But the companion of fools shall be destroyed.
Stop associating with people who are ashamed of the way you are, what you are, how you are, or what you do (as long as it is godly), because you will continue to feel inadequate, as though you have to be like them to be acceptable or respectable.
Anyone who doesn’t attach value to who you are
or how you are, does not deserve your companionship
because he will definitely derail you from the plan and
purpose of God for your life-Ogo’s nuggets
More so, all you ever need in this world to be successful, is God’s approval. Once you have that, nothing else matters. Never wish you were somebody else. Do not exchange the Michael Jackson that God has made you for an equally imperfect Elizabeth Taylor. Stay dark if you were born dark. Do not starve yourself to death because you want to be as skinny as Celine. Stay away from those drugs you are taking in order to alter certain things about yourself. Feel good about yourself. God is all knowing! Do well not to challenge Him.
Be bold, be strong for the Lord your God is with you, raring the GIANT in you. Let that giant grow for God has not given you a spirit of fear, but of power, love and sound mind.
Oh what a wonderful God we have!
How great are his wisdom and knowledge
and riches! How impossible it is for us to
understand his decisions and his methods!
For who among us can know the mind of
the Lord? Who knows enough to be his
counselor and guide? And who could ever
offer to the Lord enough to induce him to
act? For everything comes from God alone.
Everything lives by his power, and everything
is for his glory. To him be glory evermore.
Rom 11:33-36(Living Bible)
He that will climb to bring down the coconut must first count himself deserving. CELEBRATE YOURSELF! You are all you have got.